Reaction Paper #1 50 Points 2 pages This week’s topic involves Interpersonal

Reaction Paper #1

50 Points

2 pages

This week’s topic involves Interpersonal Negotiations.

Here are 3 abstracts on topics in Interpersonal Negotiations that I hope you find compelling. (You don’t have to track down the articles…just read the abstracts that I have provided.) After considering each of the topic areas, please select the one that you find most interesting and create a 2 page reaction paper that addresses the following:

How is this topic a negotiation?

What do you think the study found?

Use examples from your real life/pop culture to expand and show that you fully understand this interpersonal negotiation topic.

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Abstracts

Sex In Marriage

The Performance of Desire: Gender and Sexual Negotiation in Long-Term Marriages

Journal of Marriage and Family

We integrate theoretical traditions on the social construction of gender, heterosexuality, and marriage with research and theory on emotion work to guide a qualitative investigation of how married people understand and experience sex in marriage. Results, based on 62 in-depth interviews, indicate that married men and women tend to believe that sex is integral to a good marriage and that men are more sexual than women. Moreover, husbands and wives commonly experience conflict around sex and undertake emotion work to manage their own and their spouse’s feelings about sex. We refer to this emotion work as “performing desire” and show how it is linked to gendered experiences in marriage and to competing cultural discourses around gender, heterosexuality, and marriage.

Long Distance Relationships

Relating at a distance: Negotiating being together and being apart in long-distance relationships

Journal of Social and Personal Relationships

Partners in various relationships transition between being together and apart, but these transitions are far from seamless in long-distance relationships. In this study, a relational dialectics framework was used to examine long-distance romantic relationships and explore the contradiction(s) experienced by those involved as they negotiate between togetherness and separation. Twenty heterosexual couples participated in audio-taped interviews in which they answered a series of questions relating to togetherness and separation. Results showed that across all 20 couples, the interaction states of being together and being apart mutually enable and constrain on e another in many ways.

Those Damn Kids

Negotiate better relationships with you children.

Negotiation

The article discusses the negotiation techniques suggested by Scott Brown, a founding member of the Harvard Negotiation Project at Harvard Law School and father of four young children, in creating better relationships with children. He outlines a framework that is based on the same mutual gains negotiation techniques and is tailored to kids aged two to 12, although the principles extend to teenagers and adult children as well. The framework is composed of six categories which include; parents should deal with their emotions first, they should help their children cope with their emotions, they should learn to listen and talk to their children, parents should learn to use persuasion instead of coercion, and they should also discipline their children wisely. INSET: “Negotiate with my kids? Are you nuts?”